The way I rolled my eyes when the Grandpa blamed the mother for going back to work but he wasn't exactly present too 😒 and I didn't see him blaming the dad or the nanny or the security of his people and home. Urgh, he's unbearable.

Another thing: people whitewashing the adoptive Dad for kidnapping (!!!!) MC. I mean, he sure suffered a lot of setbacks like the losing his legs, his girlfriend and his company and he was completely depressed and determined to take his own life BUT this 👏🏽 is 👏🏽 not 👏🏽 an excuse 👏🏽 to take 👏🏽 a child 👏🏽 with him 👏🏽. I am also depressed and had a lot of suicidal and homicidal thoughts, but you don't see me breaking the law for it. Be for f*cking real 🙄

He's not the primary culprit, but he noticed Wanwan was from a well of family and had the chance to call the police but noooo, hes is depressed and he really wants someone to depend on him 🥺

He's so disgusting. And I hated how everyone was forgiving of him.

It's a "MC was taken/lost as a child and his biological parents are actually rich and want to recognize him" storyline. Maybe I missed some foreshadowing in the beginning of the story, but it threw me off because it seemed to come out of nowhere during the half way point of the story. I kind of wish that the MC did not recognize his biological family. They're nice and all but I just couldn't help but think: who cares? His adoptive dad raised him well he doesn't need two dads lol I cried because the MC and his adoptive dads relationships and the dad's health. Very bittersweet and very heartwarming.

MY problem with the plot isn't just the kidnapping thing but the whole "missing child" plot line?

tbh like I get it, in a way where I personally can't get it but I can imagine? it's a lot to have a missing family member and never get that resolution as to what happened to them.... but I thought the way that they approached the MC was weird.

like collectively kinda stalking him? Approaching him to be in his life while hiding who you are... idk sorry I'm sympathetic but it still gave me the ick. No one else seems to have a problem w that but it bothered me.

& the kidnapping thing.... sigh. Okay. I wish the author didn't write it so that the guy actually did kidnap og!MC, because that kind of plotline is just... too nuanced and complicated for this story where everything is relatively shallow and the og!MC isn't really taken into consideration at all.

because personally, I don't judge the kidnapper for how og!MC grew up. Even if he shouldn't have had the kid in the first place, he still clearly loved him and I don't think it's right to blame him for being poor? + he clearly didn't have enough power to be able to protect og!MC but he tried when he could. He wasn't equipped to support a child that wasn't his in the first place (which is an issue obvi,) but he tried his best for his circumstances and I think that matters.

I'm mostly ambivalent on the kidnapper situation where I don't feel super strongly one way or another (altho I also don't feel particularly bad for the kidnapper either btw), but I have stronger feelings on how it's handled because I think the author made a mistake in making this one of those transmigration novels where we get nothing from the og!MC. ⬇️

like the current MC has the og!MC memories, okay sure? But do they really have the same personality? Similar values? The MC's friends never seem to comment on his changed personality so we can maybe infer that the og!MC was also like this in a relaxed environment. but it's super hard to tell.

the og!MC and MC also... like they didn't grow up the same. MC grew up ill & bedridden but beloved by his family. Og!MC grew up loved by his father but also poor, bullied by his relatives, so he's very timid, etc. it's just so strange to read about such a different person (MC) making decisions about a life that just, isn't his, nor could he relate to. it's fine when it's just him re-connecting to the Xue family because it's just not that complicated, (but still... idk weird because you're not really the child they lost but the MC doesn't really think of this so whatever I suppose.)

It really shows up as a flaw when the MC forgives the kidnapper/father though. I wouldn't mind if the og!MC chose to forgive him tbh but like..... idk it's weird coming from someone who wasn't actually born and raised in the og!MC's circumstances and it's never made clear how similar they are in present day.

To me it's not about whether the MC chose to forgive the kidnapper/father or not but more of how it felt like he was acting so presumptuous about things that didn't happen or affect him?

like choosing to focus on the love he felt growing up even if he wouldn't be in those circumstances if he wasn't kidnapped... feeling resentment over forgiveness because he wouldn't have went through those hardships if he was given back to his family... understanding that the father was in a bad place when he took him... idk. It didn't seem like anything the MC would understand since it didn't affect him.

It felt weird. The author made og!MC too pitiful for the MC be so, disconnected from him.