Before My Withering

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“Nobody likes an old plaything.”

“It’s not like, it’s love.”

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Before It Shrivels
枯萎之前
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01/03/22 Abo Dammen extra 2
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emiliers
emiliers
Jun 16, 2021
Status: Completed
Oof, I have mixed feelings on this.

On one hand, as others have mentioned, this is a s*um ab*se novel where...

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The MC ends up with an actual nice guy and not the scum, which is a huge plus.

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However, on the other hand, it's still very much a s*um ab*se novel, and there is a whole lot of dogblood melodrama that abounds here, in a way that I think kind of overpowers some of its better themes.

Namely, I really enjoyed the early middle half of this (after the initial chapters of complete pain of course) before the tone then kind of completely changes for a while, veering into straight melodrama again, which left me more frustrated than sad for our MC.

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Specifically, I really liked when the MC moves in with Zhou Chen, the doctor, and basically learns to love himself and the world again. This part consisted of several really nice chapters where the MC was basically an ab*se victim recovering from ab*se, and I think it was relatively well-written, and the MC and Zhou Chen felt really natural and great together! At a certain point, this story almost tricked me into thinking it wasn't going to be a dogblood melodrama and was instead going to be about MC's recovery (which I was really excited for).

... But then it reverted back to dogblood melodrama, and I got extremely frustrated, mainly with the author and the narrative. Because, at this point, I would've 100% preferred that the story focuses entirely on MC trying to find a new life for himself and just completely forget about the s*um as if the s*um had never existed (because he didn't deserve more screentime). But, nope, of course in this kind of story, we had to make the s*um suffer!! Unfortunately, this time, the suffering was really at the expense of the MC's mental health AND the story's previously built-upon themes.

Basically, the s*umbag ends up threatening MC's estranged (and a**hole) father into selling out his son, and the MC ends up making a deal with his father to return his other father's ashes to him if he goes back to the s*umbag. Now, instead of telling Zhou Chen ANY OF THIS (even though they had previously agreed to be honest with one another), MC just says that he's too lowly etc. and couldn't help but want to get back together with the ML.

And while I had really liked how accepting Zhou Chen was prior to this, I still did a complete double-take when Zhou Chen just... accepted this explanation?? He does ask a few times to make sure, but he doesn't like... try to stop the MC at all, which completely baffled me because, yes, you need to show him that his choices matter, but this is an ab*se victim who's going back to his ab*ser!! And who had, prior to this, shown no signs of wanting to go back at all; how could he not sense that something else was going on??!!

Honestly, more than the MC not coming clean, the ML's lack of resistance to all this was what annoyed me the most. Like, come on!!

And of course what followed were classic dogblood melodrama -- including a forced wedding! [eyeroll] -- and the MC slowly withering away until the s*umbag realizes that he's actually a piece of sh*t so he lets MC go.

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Of course, if the whole thing was just dogblood melodrama followed by denouement, I would probably have thrown in the towel long before that and called this story painfully mediocre bordering on bad, but this story actually had yet another twist for me, and I'm also of two minds about that. (Though I feel a bit more positively about it than the melodrama, that's for sure, but it still left me a bit... confused about what exactly this story wanted to be.)

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So once MC goes back to Zhou Chen, it's actually revealed that MC had actually planned out this whole thing. He hadn't just returned to s*umbag in order to get his father's ashes back; he had gone back in order to cut all ties with the s*umbag, because he knew the only way the s*umbag would let him go completely would be if the s*umbag himself decides to. So he purposely went on hunger strikes, looked as pitiful as possible, kept referencing Zhou Chen, etc.

And I'm just so... baffled about this decision? Both as a writing choice, and as a decision a person would make in his actual life?? Like the MC even said he was risking his life (and, boy, was he) in order to do this. Like... there are so many better ways to achieve the same goals?? This is complete melodrama logic?? But I also kind of enjoy it more than the previous melodrama moments because it gave the MC a lot more agency.

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Honestly, I'm, like, two thirds of the way through this story and I still don't know what to think about it. It definitely plays with the emotions -- and not entirely in a good way. It honestly feels a bit unfocused, and unfortunately, less strong emotionally because of it. It's not as bad as other s*um ab*se stories I've read, but I don't know if I'd call it good either. It's certainly... unique.

I'll come back with more coherent thoughts once I finally finish it, I guess.

EDIT: Oh, jeez, this is like a liveblog-worthy (not entirely a compliment) rollercoaster of dogblood melodrama. I didn't expect the chapter right after I posted the first part of my review to give me yet another twist, and one I didn't even much like at all.

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So after the initial (very cute) reunion between the MC and Zhou Chen, of course the author needs to shoehorn in more melodrama to remind the readers that THIS IS A DOGBLOOD. So we get some family conflict! Whoo? It barely lasts like a chapter and consists of Zhou Chen's grandfather coming in and doing the typical spiel about a hussy seducing his grandchild, etc. Then Zhou Chen kicks the bodyguards' asses, threatens his grandfather, and then chases them out of the house. The end.

This sequence was actually such a rote dogblood moment that it left me wondering what even was the point in including it when all it did was interrupt my good time watching MC and Zhou Chen together. Like, is she just going down a list of melodrama tropes and applying them willy-nilly?

Anyway, then there's the reveal I didn't like that followed all this: that Zhou Chen knew all along that MC agreed to go with his s*umbag ex because MC wanted his father's ashes back. WHAT. This makes it even MORE BAFFLING that Zhou Chen just lets him leave! Like, Zhou Chen says that he had wished for MC to trust him enough to tell him, but you do not risk letting MC return to his ab*ser for that kind of thing!! That is a jerkass thing to do!! Holy shit. I mean, I'd probably be even angrier if MC hadn't had that whole plan of getting his s*umbag ex to throw him away for good, but since Zhou Chen didn't know about that plan, Zhou Chen still ends up looking terrible here!

And then, just when I thought we could finally forget about s*umbag ex for good, s*umbag ex shows up again!! It's a very quick meeting -- and not actually as dogblood as I expected other than the usual groveling by the s*umbag -- but I actually... really fail to see the point in this? Why do we need to keep returning to show how remorseful this s*umbag is? I know it's a usual s*um ab*se trope, but come on! s*um ab*se is definitely not this story's strength, and it just takes away from what is -- the MC finding himself again with the help of Zhou Chen.

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In short: I AM SO CONFLICTED WITH THIS STORY. The fluffy healing moments are actually really excellent, and the highlight of this story, but the melodrama is just... so much. It's more frustrating than sad (but then again I have a heart of stone) since it keeps interrupting the things I really care about, which is the fluffy slice-of-life moments!! And they feel actually pretty out-of-place when taken together with all the nice healing moments, so much so that it feels like the author is just shoehorning them in because she has to meet a quota or something.

I... guess I'll update again later with my final thoughts when I reach the end (or reach a spot that I have to keysmash about again), but man oh man, is this story uneven or what?

EDIT2: I am, like... six chapters from finishing ahaha, but I am this close to throwing in the towel. All my previous criticisms stand, because this story is really just one long rollercoaster of fluffy healing moments interspersed with sudden and intense dogblood melodrama. Like, any soap opera-esque plot you see on television? Yeah, it's going to make its way into this thing, somehow, someway.

And I wasn't even that fond of the fluffy healing moments this time, unfortunately, because of the way it came about.

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So it's revealed that Zhou Chen actually knew MC as a kid (of course he did -- all these stories seem to take that tract) and I wouldn't take such an issue with it if Zhou Chen wasn't... nine years older and fell in love with the MC when MC reached high school. Like, the author makes vague allusions to how kind of f*cked this is, but ultimately it still becomes a turning point for the MC to become willing to admit his feelings to Zhou Chen. Which, OK, I guess, but shit. Zhou Chen kept a diary full of MC's pictures starting from when he was like 5, as well as a CD of all his performances. Like, if they were mutual friends, it'd be kind of understandable, but MC didn't even know Zhou Chen existed until they met at the beginning of this story, so... yeah, definitely stalker vibes.

And then, right when MC was going to meet Zhou Chen at the airport to confess his love, something happens -- I'll give you a moment to guess what, no points for correct answers. Did you guess "car accident"? Because, yes, you got it right! And then it turned out that the car accident was actually a cover for [drumrolls] a kidnapping! By MC's s*umbag of an ex's fiancee of all things. And of course the kidnapping ends with s*umbag and Zhou Chen being lured into an abandoned building and then it being set on fire because of course we have to have "escape from a burning building" in our soap opera!

And then, during this harrowing moment, just like a scene straight out of a cheesy melodrama (which this is), Zhou Chen and MC confess their love for each other! And then s*umbag ends up caught in the burning building (LMAO). I was excited for a split second, but he ends up surviving (bummer). [Though, real talk: I do like that he survived, since if he had died, it would've felt like the story was setting him up for a martyr moment since he was saving the MC. At least he's alive to continue beating himself up over his own mistakes.]

And I'm not a super big fan of how the author seems to be trying to excuse his actions after this because it's then revealed in a (hopefully final) conversation between him and MC that he's actually loved MC all along, but he thought the MC loved his old classmate (who MC thought was his white moonlight) ! Ah, the most soap opera of reveals. But at least this s*umbag isn't the ML, so I'll accept this, even if it's trite and overplayed. (And I'm still not over the fact that s*umbag almost killed our MC accidentally-on-purpose, so... Can't believe this dude is getting a last minute sympathy play; he should be rotting in jail instead.) Well, the upside to all this feeling infodumping is that hopefully we'll never see s*umbag again! (Please, author, have mercy on me just this once.)

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Anyway, I was actually thinking of giving this a decently good rating, since from where I left off last time, it felt like the melodrama was ending and the good stuff was getting here, but, uh, nope. This author really wants to hit every melodrama trope there is, in record speed. It's miles better in its main relationship than most other s*um ab*se drama where the MC doesn't end up with s*um (as in, the MC and ML actually have a lot of chemistry together), but it keeps shooting itself in the foot with its storytelling decisions. It's, as I said before, honestly more frustrating than anything.

EDIT3: I FINISHED! I FINISHED!! And, the long and short of it is: the ending was good and sweet, since (thank god) we'd finally gotten the melodrama out of the way. While the two extras were... Not Great.

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The author, unfortunately, did not have mercy on me, and one of the extras is a quick diary-esque run-through of s*umbag's perspective on the whole string of events. It honestly reminded me of the diary entries from the extras in the original Like Love But Not: vaguely interesting, but largely disposable and frustrating, especially since the s*umbag was the most annoying part of the narrative for me. (And I didn't see why we needed to give him more screentime to push forth his excuses; I don't feel sorry for him, and he deserves everything he gets, and then some.)

The second extra is a diary-esque run-through of the cat that MC and Zhou Chen picked up at the end of the story. It vaguely covers what happened afterwards and ends with MC and Zhou Chen getting married. I don't mind animal perspectives, but I'm not a huge fan of "animal in love with human" narratives, which this kind of was, where the cat was in love with MC and saw Zhou Chen as a love rival (in a lowkey comedy way of course). It was kind of cute to see how MC and Zhou Chen's relationship had changed since the ending, but I would've liked seeing it from maybe Zhou Chen's perspective or something instead, since we didn't really get much from the cat. Still overall better than the first extra though.

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So, uh, in brief (not really spoilery, but spoiler tagged for space reasons) :

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Pros:

  • Great ML who's not possessive or overbearing, said to be "black-bellied" but only insofar as he's harsh to his enemies. He treats MC like the sun and moon (and knows that love is also about the willingness to let the one you love choose for himself), but he's also polite/kind to others even though he does kind of keep them at a distance.
  • Some really wonderful healing moments between MC and ML, who have a lot of chemistry together.
  • Sweet ending.

Cons:

  • Author literally went down a list of melodrama tropes and hit every, single, one.
  • "Villains" were annoying and one-note. (But also mercifully quick to disappear.) Again, largely due to the melodrama, and the sheer deluge of tropes being used.
  • Melodrama actively detracts from the pros of the series, and is more frustrating than painful in the latter half since the events are so rote.
  • Extras aren't very good, in my opinion, and doesn't focus on the story's strengths (which is the MC and ML's relationship).
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And I was originally going to clean up this review after I completed this story, but honestly? At this point, I'm so burned out on this that I don't really want to think about it again lmao. So I'm just going to leave this review as-is: a complete convoluted mess, just like the story it's reviewing. <<less
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abodammen
abodammen
Aug 10, 2021
Status: Completed
Hello, I'm Abo Dammen, the actual translator of Before My Withering (now titled as Before It Shrivels on CG).

To start off, I'd like to give 月昼, the author, credit for this short yet packed with drama novel. To all those who were seeking for face-slapping angst with minimal yet realistic plot twists, this story isn't for you. This story is mixed with all kinds of drama and just dishing out angst here and there. The writing isn't brilliant, but the emotions it brought existed, centered around Xiao Yu.

Xiao Yu is... more>> the protagonist of this novel. He is a very flawed character; a masochist who willingly offered himself on a silver platter, silently wishing for this selfless offering to be reciprocated but was instead given an empty plate. He's a hypocrite with self-conflicting thoughts, yet a person whose heart was so fragile that a single affection no matter how small, was enough to make him happy. He's superficial, callous, unyielding, and surprisingly scheming. But that's what made him a somehow relatable character. As someone who had personal experience in abusive relationships, I could understand his hesitance, despite being f*cked over right in the face, in breaking off their relationship. He was gaslit, emotionally manipulated, and was slowly trained to be dependent on the other. Honestly, his character is good, it's just the story that shaped him was a bit...

Honestly, the story was off to a great start, and the drama ensued was good for awhile, but the further the chapter, there would be unexpected scenarios, twists, and etc. that seemed a bit over the top. If you want spoilers, head off to emiliers's review, I have the same viewpoint as hers.

Now, I'm not discouraging you. I would like to read more of your feedbacks so I sincerely hope you give this novel a try. Maybe you saw something in this novel that I, and the others, didn't manage to see before. 🌸🎐 <<less
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Neollle
Neollle
May 26, 2021
Status: Completed
This omegaverse pairing is Beta (shou) x Alpha (gong). MC had a transplant gland that greatly affects his body and health. The guy he’s in love with doesn’t care at all. (Typical jerk at the start and regrets his actions at the end where everything is too late)

Don’t worry it’s a happy ending but I won’t spoil too much!

Spoiler

The ML is the Doctor :)

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_-Cosmos-_
_-Cosmos-_
Oct 03, 2021
Status: c25
First off I think this is the best depiction of ab*se I've seen yet I was able to experience Xiao Yu's fear and despair while also sympathizing with him, the author really understands how ab*se works and they're able to clearly depict how it happens too,

on that note don't listen to lady henitsu that person is clearly ignorant.

this novel is definitely worth a try if you want some angst though definitely wouldn't recommend reading it if these matters are triggering for you
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Lady Henituse
Lady Henitus
Sep 19, 2021
Status: --
What can I say? Umm... Actually the ML is too good for MC. At the first place MC is dumb enough to hold at that s*um Qi Shu for the sake of f*cking love.

I'm sorry but seriously, ML deserve better.

If I became ML's mother, I will help MC with money, protection, etc. But marrying my son is a No.
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RickyTracy
RickyTracy
Jun 11, 2021
Status: Completed
Well.....I skipped ten chapters from starting c30 bcuz I'm impatient and well....... the unexpected things happened.

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Unlike other s*um gong ab*se, this one will not end up with s*um and I'm still amazed by this!

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Not brilliant enought tho...... but for the ending I still think it's a worth read!
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crownprince
crownprince
Jun 09, 2021
Status: Completed
Angst lovers gather here!! This is so angsty that my heart ached so much while reading this wonderful piece. The MC went through a lot at such a tender age, going through and reading the ups and down he went through has quite a tug on my heartstrings.

Nevertheless, it's still a great read, the way the plot and characters developed is not superb but it is good.

Yes, it's HE but I'm still debating whether I will reread this piece as the angst is so so so heavy. But it is... more>> not a very long novel so I still recommend you to read it!

If you are uncomfortable with ML changes this is not for you,
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This is a 换攻 novel meaning it's a change in gong/top. The ML is not the s*um "ML", neither is this a story focused on the scummy "ML" trying to redeem and change himself to reclaim the MC.

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holachica
holachica
Nov 03, 2022
Status: Completed
3 rounded up

    • .5 star deducted: the s*upid dogblood drama that was really, really unecessary, like c'mon...
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      did the author really have to have some jilted lover kidnap MC and play out a whole kidnap attempted mu*der who-can-save-him-first plot?? Like bro, it's just filler at this point. Setting that entire house on fire was overkill. The story was literally chapters away from ending. It completely broke the tone of the story.

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    • .5 stars deducted: the weird ass
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      ML-watched-MC-grow-up subplot. The author could've just made it love at first sight. I know it was to prove to the MC that ML really loved him, but damn that's lowkey creepy. And again, exaggeratedly unecessary.

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    • .5 star deducted: because the author decided to make the ending chapters a melodrama.
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      Having Qi Shu throw himself into a fire to test MC and ML's relationship? Suddenly revealing that the one Qi Shu liked was MC all along? Except Qi Shu also in love with Wen Yan back then too? Like the story really could've ended ten chapters earlier. Like, c'mon I didn't sign up to read this tr*sh.

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    • .5 starts deducted: Because I'm a bit annoyed by how the author tried to give Qi Shu a redemption POV at the end. "Look, he has reasons for beating MC the f*ck up, thinking that MC is a sl*t, etc., etc." "Look, he loved MC the whole time".
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      But then, isn't that all the scarier? That he unknowingly loved MC that whole time, but still thought it fine to beat MC within an inch of his life and throw MC down the stairs. All because he was jealous. No matter what your feelings, if one is unconsciously in love, it will show in their actions. You don't have to be aware that you're in love, to subconsciously treat that person well. But no, he thought MC was a sl*t, so every one of MC's actions were biased by that lens. He thought that MC was money hungry, so even though MC is obviously losing weight and becoming more depressed, just throw him money! (Even though MC never used that money... but Qi Shu simply never bothered to check). In the end it was doomed to fail, because from beginning to finale, he never gave MC a chance.

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      More so, it was annoying that the author tried to reveal "past truths", and so on. But the author went about it very poorly. Rather than reading something coherent, it felt like I was reading tacked-on afterthoughts. Like every time new information popped up about Qi Shu, it just felt like the author was bullshitting in an attempt to make Qi Shu look better. Honey, nothing can justify f*cking someone up and throwing them down a flight of stairs. Kinda surprised MC survived that.
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Psychoutre
Psychoutre
Dec 29, 2021
Status: c42
I can't believe I lost sleep because of this novel, this is literally a soap opera. Non-stop drama. When you thought it was finally over and the MC finally goes to the path of recovery - BAM! Another over-the-top event happens, and I could never comprehend how the author managed to insert it in the story.

Maybe I'm not as empathetic as I thought I'd be but man...

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MC really needs a backbone. He also needs to stop leading the ML on! But I get it, the author is only intentionally doing this to add more angst. MC was so eager to please his s*umbag of a lover but suddenly it doesn't apply to the ML? Why is he so hesitant and pretending to be so oblivious to the signs that the ML obviously had romantic intentions! ML also worked so hard to return MC to their original state through recuperation, but one threatening move from his lover, MC immediately follows back to his lover's bidding - without consulting with the ML who had spent so much time and effort on him! UGH the one-sided treatment is real!!

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I only read up to the latest chapter to have some peace in my mind and go to sleep. At this point it was near 4am. But I still have a bitter taste left in my mouth when I think of this novel. Learnt my lesson and should've stopped when I first saw the warning bells. <<less
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FrostyDragon
FrostyDragon
Apr 13, 2022
Status: Completed
This had both good and bad parts, but my overall impression was that the story and plot was very uneven. It's a novel that seems to both want to have a crematorium plot, but also wants to punish the s*um gong for being s*um (which is totally deserved, his actions are appalling from beginning to end), and have a nice second love interest provide an actual healthy relationship for the MC. Which is also fine, 'changing the gong' is also a trope and can be the best decision for a... more>> MC and overall story. But here it seemed like the author wanted too many things at once.

So the story is trying to be:

    • A sweet tale about healing through love, care and getting into a healthy relationship with an unselfish and doting love interest and move on from a past abusive relationship.
But at the same time it shoves in:

    • A side-plot about misunderstanding your lover and turning to ab*se as a 'love language' when you can't figure out how to properly express and deal with your feelings.
And also making it:

    • A story about an abusive relationship where a person with a tragic background and low self-esteem falls into a contract relationship that becomes a cycle of ab*se.
And on top of that we get:

    • Dogblood drama and infighting and schemes in rich families and crazy characters in melodramatic side plots that come out of nowhere (on prominent side plot towards the end almost had me drop the novel, it was so s*upid and cartoonish).
The MC isn't bad as first-person narrators go, but I did get a little annoyed with his constant thoughts of self-loathing and lack of self-love. Logically it makes sense that he's like this, but he also seemed like a kind of dumb person. The one bit he revealed about himself that was supposed to mean he was actually a bit devious and clever seemed to come out of the blue. I couldn't help thinking "If you were smart enough to do that, why didn't you make smarter decisions for yourself previously?" I would have loved it if the MC had turned out to be actually manipulative in his former relationship, or anything else that would have made him interesting. Instead I just wondered why two hot guys were both so infatuated with him to the point of obsession, since he was such an uninteresting character.

I think my expectations for these kind of dogblood crematorium novels are too high due to reading the 188 series. In that series it always makes sense that the MC has a lot of admirers even if he's not the hottest or most charismatic guy around - because he's always brave, kind, and has a distinct personality that makes him likable or at least fascinating. The MC in this novel is simply defined by the fact that he's a victim who suffers a lot. Which gets boring really fast.

The truth about the two alpha gongs also gets revealed too late. I felt some pity for Qu Shi, but then we've seen him being absolutely horrible to the MC right from chapter 1. I got annoyed when Wen Ziqing revealed that

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Qu Shi was supposedly 'nicer' or 'better' to the MC than his other lovers, because holy sh*t was Qu Shi over the top abusive to the MC. So he was actually worse to Wen Ziqing? And then why in the world was WZ upset that the guy who ab*sed him horribly didn't want to marry him? Why would you want to marry a violent abusive a*hole when you're from a rich family and you don't love him, and you obviously would have other options? It wasn't explained and there was no logic to it.

Just reminded me of 'Alpha Predator', which is ABO dogblood setting done right.

And WZ's reveal just highlighted how absolutely awful Qu Shi treated the MC - and all his other lovers.

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Which brings me to what I found unrealistic about the abusive relationship between the MC and Qu Shi. We later find out that

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Qu Shi did in fact fall for the MC, but pushed him away and ab*sed him because he was absolutely clueless about love. I get that a long term abusive relationship can chip away a person's self-esteem and make them co-dependent so it's harder to leave their lover. But it doesn't make sense that the MC stays with Qu Shi in the beginning when he's basically r*ped during their first time, and QS proceeds to treat him like sh*t for the whole time they're together. Wouldn't that make any sane person leave the relationship in the early stages? Realistically, for the MC to stay, QS should have had periods where he's actually nice to the MC, or at least the s*x should be good. But QS is all-around horrible to him.

Of course the MC might be biased and we see the relationship from his perspective when it's coming to an end and the ab*se has gotten worse, but even when we finally get QS's perspective he reveals that he was actually never nice to the MC at any point in time.

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Why is Qu Shi such a terrible person? The author doesn't develop his character, there's no real depth to him and he comes off flat and uninteresting. Only an extra reveals when and how he changed his mind, but it's too late - the author should have integrated this reveal in the story.

This is where the first person narrator turns out to be a bad decision, because we lack the perspective of the other characters.

If it had just been a story about the ab*sed MC being picked up by a nice, doting new lover, it would have maybe worked better. The parts with MC and Zhou Chen falling in love where fine, although Zhou Chen is kind of a boring character. But then we find out that

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Zhou Chen has been obsessed with the MC since before he was born?! And sure, it's a point that Zhou Chen doesn't try to take advantage of the MC when he's young and struggles with his feelings, which could have been interesting if it had been developed more (recently read an untranslated novel by Ka Biqiu that handled this trope much better and made the gong an interesting character). But it's just thrown into the story to 'prove' how loving, kind and selfless Zhou Chen is. Which... I guess is okay, but it just doesn't make him more interesting.

And also the fact that he forged over a 100 letters and pretended the MC's deceased beta mother had written them was just weird and ethically wrong. Also why watch over a lonely child instead of actively providing love and care for him? Why was ZC so passive when the MC could have obviously needed him in his life at an earlier date?

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All in all this novel suffers wrong the author wanting the story to be too many things at the same time, and not developing the characters enough to make them truly interesting. <<less
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Kala
Kala
Apr 05, 2022
Status: Completed
I’ve read it...

Honesty after finishing this novel I don’t feel much... quite bland...

Was it bad... not really...

... more>> Was it good... just so so...

I do get what they’re trying to portray but I don’t think I can appreciate it really. The story is from a perspective of the MC and he is one strange man... you say he’s strong - but he’s not, you say he’s weak- then he does something brave, or becomes strong minded, you say he’s heartbroken- but it’s too weak, and that’s the case with everything. There’s one thing that’s for sure and it’s that he’s a Mery Sue type... but confused and confusing AF!

If this novel wasn’t 44 ch long I would have dropped it... I’ve kept reading because is was so short so I wanted to finish. <<less
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kissingrain
kissingrain
Aug 06, 2021
Status: Completed
Don't be scared fellas, it is HE! With sprinkles of angst here and there 😉😉

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Call me crazy or whatever but at first I read this novel purely because I expected this novel to be a redemption story of the s*um gong. But, I liked Zhou Chen the more I read into the story and AM VERY HAPPY AND GLAD THE MC ENDS UP WITH HIM wohoo it is kinda rare for shou in s*um gong novel like this to end up with someone else who is truly kind and care about the shou. Though, I wish the author would focus on the MC's recovery rather than all those dogblood drama in the later half of the novel.

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All in all, this is a good novel to pass the time 👍 <<less
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Jelly Belly
Jelly Belly
Mar 18, 2022
Status: Completed
Angsty and HE. Usually I hated this combination simply because

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The MC usually forgive and goes back to the s*um ML no matter the ab*se and hardships they went through. Most of the novels I read ended up like this and I grew my dislike for it. As bad as it sounds, I actually preferred a BE for the MC (simply because I lost all hope of MC actually turning a new leaf over and left the ML for good), aka them dying, leaving those s*umbags to wallow in regret all their life.

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BUT NO! This is the first to actually exceeded my expectation! I can't tell you, I simply leapt with joy when I read the ending.

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THE MC ENDED UP WITH A GOOD DESERVING MAN! Finally! A MC who actually value himself enough to leave the toxic partner for good and stayed with the good man until end! That part is important because most MC I've seen left the tr*sh for a while, only to end up with them anyway. WHERE IS YOUR SELF-WORTH, MAH DEARIE?!

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It's definitely different from most angsty novels out there. I can say this is truly the HE I'm looking for. <<less
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dee_ism
dee_ism
Jan 06, 2022
Status: --
I put an extra star just for our beloved ML, who is so caring and loving to our MC.

It's angsty but it shows us the healing process, how happy I am when I read that our MC keep getting better and no redemption arc for the tr*shy guy.

It's a HE.
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Queen_of_Chaos000
Queen_of_Cha
May 17, 2024
Status: Completed
If you like angst with a happy ending, this is it.

Love it!

Typical of this type of story, the basic plot points were as usual, but none of it felt cliche.

The story mostly was carried out by characterization. The MC's inner turmoil and his state of mentality reflected the type of life he's been living. Throughout the story, which in return reflected how different the beginning and the end were.

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And you have to just love the ML. He is simply the best.

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It was wonderfully delivered and kudos to the translators.
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damnmei
damnmei
Feb 09, 2024
Status: Completed
I think I've read this before but never wrote a review? This novel definitely delivers on the dog blood. MC has a good character growth arc and I liked how he slowly opened up when he found someone who would actually respect and take care of him. Bonus points to this novel for not having the usual wife chasing crematorium.

What annoyed me:

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Too much time trying to explain the s*um gong's shitty behavior. Qi Shu's reasoning for treating MC like sh*t was ridiculous and I have no sympathy for him. Thinking that MC liked someone else isn't a reason to treat him like that. The extra in his POV actually made me feel sick. Author tried too hard to make Qi Shu sympathetic and it just made me angry instead because he deserves no explanation.

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The amount of times I wanted to shake some sense into the MC cannot be understated, but I stuck it out for the HE.

About ML:

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I feel like having the doctor be ML was such a good move that it makes this novel rating higher just because of the unique premise. Their shared backstory was also very cute and I liked that ML didn't just start liking MC out of nowhere.

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Nao Otosaka
Nao Otosaka
Feb 09, 2022
Status: Completed
A perspective of a used person, it truly was a well-portrayed read. It's an untrodden topic in usual novels and it's highly appreciated that the author took upon this perspective of things and let this character learn to love and cherish himself, let him grow and mature and finally be strong enough to leave the person who hurt him the most. Usually, it's the other way around with the main character returning back to the person/the culprit who tortured him. But here, not only did the MC leave, the ML... more>> too learnt his lesson that repentance can't always turn back time and erase those crimes you committed. They can't heal the victim only time can scab those wounds but the past shall remain. Also, love doesn't need you to force your other half to remain together with you w/o their freedom. That's sheer selfishness and obsession. But sometimes letting go and being a well-wisher from afar is enough proof that you truly love that person. The scene I loved the most is around ch.40 when both decided to talk it out and let go. They moved forward with their lives, the used person with his beloved who cherishes him and the one who used his lover with his lessons and repentance.

It teaches such a valuable lesson of self-love and self-appreciation which is not a well-presented or grazed over in most CN novels. It's even rarer to find an MC prioritising his own self-esteem and self-importance above all. In this case, the MC learnt to grow and cherish himself, find his passions and never look back again, March straight ahead with self-confidence and self-love. A wonderful and rare thing to see in novels and couldn't be more grateful for covering this topic. <<less
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angstywuxian
angstywuxian
Aug 30, 2021
Status: Completed
THIS BOOK IS SO FREAKING GOOD!!!!!

Alright guy, first of all, READ THE TAGS. Don't leave negative reviews just after reading a few chapters because this book deserves so much! It shows us the journey of the MC going from being in an abusive relationship to finding himself and his happiness. It's a dogblood novel, yes but it's not the one without logic. I can't say anymore without spoiling the story but I just wanna say, please give this a chance. It's freaking wonderful!
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tenchaan
tenchaan
Aug 05, 2021
Status: Completed
Angst. Angst. Angst. It's just pain, with a bit of domestic happiness, and then pain once again. Just when you think the story's taking turn for the better, it will suddenly plunge you into another pit of drama. Bad decisions, scheming, and other stuff just thrown in one pot.

The course of events isn't exactly realistic, but the faceslapping was somehow sarisfying. It's just...
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wasthequeen
wasthequeen
Dec 18, 2022
Status: Completed
Although in the beginning I found the entire premise pointless, slowly as the real ML showed up I started loving this more. Alot of angsty stories have the tr*sh emotionless ML and a very caring considerate second ML and always the MC would end up with the trying-to-change tr*sh. Glad this MC had chosen to change and leave tr*sh behind. After he chose the ML I found a lot of filler ab*se but the cat extra was worth it.
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