Yeah, the son was on a mission and he didn't know he had kids. But he still tried to parent them and suddenly talk all "husbandly" towards his wife (after being several years mia) without first getting to know the whys and ifs.

Like, while the son is free to be skeptical towards his mother's intentions, but Qin Nian is in all her right to be angry at him. Let's not forget that they weren't so close in first place. Plus, he married her then soon after was MIA for several years (long enough for the two kids to be born, learn to run and talk and go to school. Qin Nian knows his mother much better than him, he is basically a stranger already. A stranger, who never wrote, never got interested in how his wife was doing, was missing (they even told them that he was dead) for several years, then suddenly appears - badmouths her best supported (his mother), tries to act all authoritarian towards her, and the kids. All without first trying to get to know them all again, and without any proper communication yet.

We end up knowing that he was on a mission for the great of the people. And it was required to be seen as dead by everyone. And with how much good he did by uncoveringthe enemies of the nation - people should show him more leniency and respect. But relationships are not so simple.

As, yeah, he had it bad - he had all the time been in danger of losing his life, there is no questioning nor undermining that.

But his wife also would have had it bad, if his mother hadn't arrived and helped and supported her. And his wife understands how much help his mother has been. Plus she had had plenty of time to burry/forget most of her feelings towards her husband, thanks to the fact that they pronounced him dead at some point.

My speculation is that MC's son didn't cheat, instead it should be a big misunderstanding.

From how he is presented, it seems he is very genuine to his wife, it just that he is more patriotic. It's not like this is bad, after all when you marry someone actively supporting the country, be it soldier, fire fighter, police or even a doctor, this is something expected to happen.

What likely happen is: amnesia, mission or other misunderstanding excuses like the preggo lady likes the son and taking advantage of his kindness to guide her to the obgyn. It's weird but this stuff normal in this kind of melodramatic story.

Her son went missing after a mission and was finally found and sent to an hospital. Even a tiger mom would have felt something, while MC just remain indifferent and "well he is my son".

At the same day got even mad at him for slurping and eating loudly, like dear what. No wonder he is traumatised by you.

I have a strong opinion that how a person view their parents is up to them.

Sure you may think their parent is nice and kind, but you have to understand that unlike you, they have to live with their parents since they were a baby and how they react and behave is 90% base on how they are parented.

in short, just because you had a good experience does not mean you cannot deny them for having a bad childhood.

Heck, the number of cases where the parent is sh*t but treat their child's partner normal is also high. And yet many people still hold this old value that child should let go because ultimately they are the one who gave bith to them haha.