what I mean is that she looks very much down upon women who sleeps with other men, who aren't their husbands. Though she never talks bad about those people she also just sits there when other do bring this up and says nothing. In many cases people would view this as her agreeing.

I feel. Like the author is the one who has very narrow views about what a woman should or shouldn't do when unmarried/married.

one of the best example is the second sister in law, who at first is very against MC and her ways, her feelings are grounded in jealousy and wanting to be able to do the same as MC but not having the financial stability to do so. But while this sometimes escalate by the time MC has lived there for 6 years the sister in law has mellowed out. This is feel is an excellent way to show how people can change and don't always have to stay in the same role as they were assigned. They can be allowed to grown and change.

I liked the village time more compared to their days in the city because we got to see so much lesser of Da Wa and Er Wa. It was lovely to read about how Lin Qing He would help her family advance in the city but I wish we didn't have to read so much about the children of the other in laws especially Er Ni. The only child of the sister-in-laws whom I cared about was San Ni and I was happy when she finally came to Beijing too. Wish we got to read more about the 3 brothers and their precious daughter.

some readers didnt like that the MC died first but I think it's good bcuz she died peacefully and like served her purpose, yknow the time that she dreamed of the kids being malnourished/skinny

pulls along her entire family's fate and making them successful in life.