1. Theme: I love the theme of this novel. It reminds us that people are connected to each other, that we should all help each other out.

2. The slow burn: The mature love of MC and ML. They built their relationship stone by stone.

3. The exes: They are not zero to psychos. Are they jerks? Yes. But they are not your typical villains.

4. The radio portion: The callers are hilarious!

5. The FRIENDSHIP!: I LOVE THE FRIENDSHIP HERE! Out of all the CN novels I've read, this is one of the best! You see, this shows how adult friendship works; by reaching out and making time even though you have life and everything in between. The chaotic duo: Dong and Xiaoyue! And the last remaining braincells of the group: The sweet Xinxin <3

6. The possible spin offs: I am so invested on this side stories!

7. Xinxin: I love her!

1. I am more inclined with the side characters/stories:

• Black-bellied school prince X drunk caller: I am so invested! I wish they showed the wedding!
• Xinxin X Beggar/Alien dude: Spin off please!
• Qin Yue X Xiaoyue: THESE TWO! Chaotic couple goals!

2. I wish there is more of a definitive ending where it was really shown what life has been like for all the characters. The ending is really good but It's quite hard to puzzle the pieces.

So the first thing I was quite curious about is how did the FL die in her last life? And at what age she died? We read that in her 30s she was a lonely single lady who stopped contacting her married friends and going home because she wasn't able to find her Mr. Right. But what happened afterward? Had she lived till her 70s or 80s and died alone? Or did she die in her 30s? I kept thinking about this. Lol

Like that one time, he met his ex-GF in America and failed to tell her that he is married. They met again and he told her that, but she didn't take it seriously and even he didn't try to say it again. Then when he bought lipsticks for the FL aka his wife his ex-gf thought that those were for her and took them and he didn't even stop her because she was with her friend, and he didn't want to embarrass her. Even though he messaged her afterward to tell her that those weren't for her, but I felt that it didn't have the desired effect. I bet the ex-gf thought that he was angry/throwing a tantrum of some sort and that she would be able to pacify him. And that's the reason she returned to the country and tried to get together with him again by appearing in front of him wearing the diamond ring he had given her.

I felt that if he had made things clear with his ex-gf during his 3 months stay in the USA, then everything that happened afterward wouldn't have occurred. And at one point FL made him promise that he would tell her if he met his ex-gf and his response was that would it hurt you if I told you that? And when she said yes, he said that then I won't tell you. Dude WTH. Why are you even thinking about meeting your ex-gf? Stop meeting her, make her realize that you are a married man now and that you both have no chance to get back together. Men. Smh

So the first time they had s*x was the night he purposed. And the second time they had s*x was in the shower a few weeks after and at that time he forgot to "wear the cond*m". And then FL said that do you like children. I do. Oh, you do too. Then let's have children. They made a baby that night. They also had unprotected s*x after that day several times. And when she actually got pregnant, he said that let's wait for two to three years to have a kid (they were not aware of her pregnancy at that time). Dude, you should have thought of this before you forgot to cover your willy. I felt the pregnancy part rushed.

You can tell this because in the novel, the author shows his thoughts of her as thinking that she's worldly and mature at many times. In the beginning we see him having a misconception about her not being mature--thinking she was impulsively marrying because of her spoilt relationship that ended similar to his.. He even worries about the age gap and wonders if she treated their marriage was a spur of the moment fling.. Afterall, from his perspective, she is a fresh college graduate at the age of 22. But after interacting with her and getting to know her better, he eventually starts to see that she is more mature than her age.

ML and his ex-girlfriend didn't have much time spent together because ex-gf was busy pursing her career and assumed he would be inexhaustible. She put their relationship on a backhold, while the ML did his best to pursue her and even proposed three times, all getting rejected for a variety of reasons. He put in more effort and catered to her wishes very often, which in the end might have caused her to take him for granted. Both of them lacked communication, and had their own misunderstandings. In a way, ex-gf seemed to be pressured by his ideals of wanting a loving relationship like his parents. And for that, I am not putting the pit on the ex-gf, a relationship takes two to tango.

But lets talk from the stand-point of the ML, imagine being rejected three times after proposing.. His heart must have torn so much to the point where even when he was in front of the Civil Affairs Bereau, he must've not actually wanted to marry her and proposed the ultimatum as a way to project that he wanted to end. Even the point where he agreed to marry the MC spontaneously, can be viewed as him being exhausted in his past relationship and just wanted to find an out and get married.

Like some of the other reviewers believe, I don't think a marriage with his ex would have survived. They had different goals and priorities and would have continued to clash and hurt each other.

ML prioritized family, wanted to get married, and hoped that his parents could meet his future wife. While ex-gf wasn't considerate because she claimed that she could meet the parents later and get married after her dreams were achieved. She prioritized her own feelings over the fact that the ML was scared about his mother's surgery (50% risk). The biggest thing that struck me here is.. If she wanted to put their relationship on hold at this point, then what if something had gone wrong and ML's mother passed---how could she live on knowing she never met her future husband's mother? In short, I believe she never wanted to get married to the ML as she didn't consider her future with him or his family.. Putting her goals first and their relationship on a backburner... Unwillingness to compromise... Is that really love? Haha, I really didn't want to put her in the pit but she ended up there haha..

In the end, ex-gf realizes that MC suits ML better than herself and she redeems herself by reminding herself that she missed out on a wonderful man. Even though it was quite petty to do this by keeping the diamond ring of the man who she rejected three proposals.

The novel further potrays MC's desperation through her experience of being pressured by her family, where the relationship between mother and daughter strained to the point where she would not go home in fear of being nagged, criticized, or getting set-up with someone she doesn't love. She was in the end, alone because of this, and that loneliness gave her the mental damage that spurred her to simply marry someone (with suitable conditions) off the street. In fact, I'm not surprised she treated it like a speed blind date. She was already exhausted with all of the blind dates with people that didn't meet her conditions of "suitable" in her past life, and given the opportunity.. She jumped at the chance of doing it with the ML.

There are many instances where she does this through her job as a radio broadcaster, but I believe the most meaningful instance was where she saved a young man's life by persuading himself a chance, despite his parents believing him to eventually become a pe*verted psychopathic killer like his dreams. Ironically his dreams caused him to become a genius in the horror industry, and he stopped having the dreams as soon as he wasn't pressured and he gained people who believed in him.

I really wish there was an epilogue where the MC could openly tell ML about her past life, whether that be when they're old or maybe even during the main story.. The novel teaches us about respect and communication between the two, but I feel like the main reason the MC is who she is.. Is because of her past life. Granted, rebirth is not realistic and some could be considered strange or even delusional, but I believe the author could have set it around something cliche like.. "Do you believe in past lives?" Or "I had a dream.

Although it seems cliche, it would've been really meaningful to see an interaction like this showing how much the main character trusted her hubby and wanted to share her past with him.

Although the novel never tells us why she was reborn, I believe that the reason she was brought back was because of her loneliness. She may or may not have been depressed in her past life, given that she was struggling without the warmth of her family and alone in the end. I speculate that her rebirth was to give her an opportunity to find love and redeem what she missed out on her past life. And with that being said, I'm okay with this not being declared and left open-ended.